We are just beginning to hear and see stories of people returning to the burned heaps of rubble that were once their homes. They sift through some of the debris and find broken china, perhaps a metal bed frame, perhaps a spoon. They are somber, and some are in tears, as they survey the charred remains of a former life.
The common response of all, though, has been a profound gratitude for life. The fires may have stolen a lifestyle and its mementos, but they also have gifted people with a new appreciation for living.
A few days ago, I spoke with some who thought people would be leaving San Diego by the droves.
At that time I thought not--and still do.
A family whose home was destroyed in Ramona was asked by a reporter if they were going to pull up stakes and move. The owner replied that his burned house is just a house, but Ramona is home. They will rebuild and remain in their home: Ramona. That is their community, where friends pull together and share a common history. Fires cannot destroy that bond.
I have spoken with several people whose La Costa area homes were destroyed 12 years ago in the Harmony Grove Fire. Most rebuilt and remained in the community--because it is the community that is home.
No one means to minimize the horrible trauma of losing one's home. There is the shock of the initial loss, the months of haggling with insurance companies and contractors, the problems of displacement and finding temporary shelter, the process of rebuilding a lifestyle.
But the process of rebuilding a lifestyle allows for changes in living that might not have occurred otherwise. The rebuilt home may be configured differently, may better reflect your identity, may better serve your needs. And the rebuilding will be a process shared by the community, which will further tighten the bonds between neighbors and friends.
San Diego will survive and thrive.
If grass can grow through concrete, life can arise from the ashes.

Fallbrook, located in northern San Diego County, has been especially hard-hit by the Rice Fire. 7500 acres have been destroyed so far by this wildfire, and fully one-third or more of their avocado groves are lost. It is not yet known how many trees are "simply" damaged and will not be producing fruit this season.
It has been so hard to post blogs these last few days. Communications have been very personal: Telephone calls (friends, family and clients) and emails have dominated free time.
Maureen McCabe...QUEEN Maureen, has accomplished the unthinkable:
In our coastal San Diego luxury real estate market, buyers are practically manic about their closets–and especially the ones in the master suite.
It's time for North San Diego County gardners to clear out the ragged flower beds and make way for new growth.
Last Friday, I had the opportunity to join others at Lomas Santa Fe Country Club for